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I hate imaginary play with my child, how do I get through it?

Lately, whenever my son and I are driving in the car, I put down all four windows and cry “wind bomb!” It’s a new game I invented, where the winner is the person who has the last window to go up.

Spoiler alert: it’s usually his window.

I love fun! Fun is a big part of who I am. So — why is it that I can’t stand imaginary play or role play of any sorts?

Go on the trampoline with him, sure. Boardgames, love too.

I recently even mimicked a scene from the show Is It Cake? for my son’s fifth birthday — I positioned six plates around the table with bananas on them. One of the bananas is actually a cake.

Yet when my son asks: “Do you want to play with me?” Inside, I cringe. Outwardly, I probably cringe too.

Is it real or is it cake? I’m happy to play games with real life props. One of these is a cake made by Alisha Rose Sweets.(Supplied: Mikki Cusack)

Why do I hate it so much?

If I dread imaginary play so much, is there something wrong with me? I sought an explanation from the millennial parenting whisperer Becky Kennedy.

Based in the US, the clinical psychologist is best known as Dr Becky, parenting expert and podcast host.

She reassures me: “it’s OK to not like play.”

Phew. But what does that mean, and what can I do about it.

“Do you want to be this one, or this one?” my son asks me, holding up two of his toys from him.

In his mind, there is only one right answer: I always play his least favorite transformer toy, Boulder the Rescue Bot.

Imaginary play feels stiff, and it bores me. I’m not sure why I don’t enjoy it, but I really, really don’t.

My heart races. Time stands still, and I feel as though it’s Groundhog day, with a dictator at the helm.

“Nothing is wrong with you,” says Dr Becky. “Realizing that it’s okay to not like play, or pretend play is the single most important thing that will help you engage in more play.”

“That’s the number one thing that will help you engage in it more easily.”

Dr Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist, mother of three, and founder of the breakthrough global parenting community, Good Inside.((Supplied: Melanie Dunea) )

It’s all about boundaries

Play matters to kids, and it’s important for their development and early education so it’s about finding the right way — and right time — to make play work for you and your family.

Jumping into play is all well and good, if you have the time and energy. But as many parents experience, much of the time you’re tired, burnt out and have a million other things to do.

We can’t all be a Bandit Heeler from Bluey.

“You’re allowed to not play with your kid,” Dr Becky says.

“You can say you’re not available.”

One tip for parents is to set time limits on how long they can play for. We all go about our everyday business doing things that we don’t like to do. It’s true — I hate cleaning, but I still do it.

I try it out. “I can play for 10 minutes today,” I say. It doesn’t sit well with him, and I duck a few blocks to the head.

I try again: “I love playing with you, but that’s all the time I have today. I’m sorry, I wish it was longer too!” This works better.

Putting your phone away is also crucial. Think about it — if you’re talking to someone who has their head slumped down checking social media, how would you feel? If you were out with your mate, and they constantly checked their phone, would you feel annoyed?

It’s hard not to resonate with this tip. We’ve all felt annoyed by someone on their phone.

Building my play muscle

My son loves role play so I want to find a way to make it work for us both.

There are various strategies and ways to approach play, and I’ve tried following Dr Becky’s suggestion that I try to repurpose play for myself.

scene: We’re sitting outside and we have just crash landed onto a desert island where a giant anaconda lives.

“Water, food and shelter.” That’s what I tell my five-year-old we need.

My mind is searching for what the other thing humans need to survive but I can’t remember. I need to wrap this game up somehow.

“Mayday, mayday — SOS,” I shout. Eventually, we are “rescued”, I can wrap up the game and breathe a sigh of relief.

Later, I turned the pretend play into a lesson. We learned together that ‘mayday’ is derived from the French word m’aider which translates loosely to ‘help me’. After that, we practiced how to make an SOS signal by tapping with our fingers on the kitchen bench.

By bringing learning and information into the role play, I found it more tolerable.

So next time he asks me to play, I will try not to scream: “MAYDAY, MAYDAY!” but instead think of the French meaning, and look at the situation how I can help met both mine, and my child’s needs.

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Dayne Zorko would ‘love’ to have Buddy Franklin at Brisbane in 2023

Brisbane captain Dayne Zorko says he’d “love” to have Buddy Franklin at the Lions in 2023.

Nine’s Michael Atkinson broke the news on Thursday evening that Brisbane had emerged as the shock frontrunner to land the signature of the 35-year-old superstar, who has been at the Swans since 2014.

Atkinson reported that Franklin has informed the Swans he will leave at the end of this season, with he and wife Jesinta wanting to move closer to family on the Gold Coast.

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Any potential deal with Brisbane wouldn’t be confirmed until the trade period after the grand finale.

Speaking on Radio 4BC, Zorko said the four-time Coleman Medal winner would be more than welcome at the Lions.

“Obviously they all seem to be rumors at the moment, but it’s very exciting if that was the case,” he said.

“You’d love to play with one of the greats of the game, there’s no doubt about it.

“There’s plenty of water to go under the bridge on that front, he might be able to squeeze into the backline somewhere!”

Swans boss Tom Harley continues to maintain negotiations with the star forward are tracking well, but stopped short of confirming that Franklin would re-sign.

“We’ve been pretty consistent all along, there’s nothing to announce but there’s nothing untoward at the same time,” Harley told Radio 3AW.

“I know that Lance is absolutely locked in with his football at the moment, I appreciate that everyone would love an answer, but there’s no hurry from our point of view, and no hurry from Lance’s point of view.

“Things are all tracking well.”

But pressed to give a yes or no answer on whether or not Franklin would be in Sydney colors in 2023, Harley hedged his bets.

“I’m trying not to be flippant about it, we’re working our way through all of that and we’ve love for Lance to play for as long as he wants to keep playing.”

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Coolum man charged with drug driving over horror Sunshine Coast crash that killed three-year-old

A 36-year-old man is facing multiple charges over a fatal head-on crash that killed a three-year-old boy on the Sunshine Coast earlier this year.

The Coolum man has been charged with two counts each of dangerous operation of a vehicle causing death or grievous bodily harm, drug driving and driver failing to restrain a child under four.

Police allege the man was driving a silver Mitsubishi Pajero on the Sunshine Motorway on May 30, when it and a Mazda CX-9 heading north collided.

Two three-year-old passengers — a boy and a girl — were in the back of the four-wheel-drive at the time.

The boy child suffered critical injuries and died in the Sunshine Coast University Hospital the next day.

The man and the female child sustained minor injuries.

The 38-year-old woman driving the second vehicle and her 12-year-old passenger suffered serious and significant injuries.

They were released from hospital yesterday.

A four-year-old boy in the Mazda also had minor injuries.

The man was granted police bail and will appear in Maroochydore Magistrates Court on August 26.

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Fifth body found after fiery Windsor Hills crash; victims include infant and pregnant woman

A fiery multi-car crash left five dead, including a pregnant woman and an infant, in Los Angeles’ Windsor Hills neighborhood Thursday, according to authorities.

Eight people were also injured in the crash at La Brea and Slauson avenues. The LA County Fire Department responded to the crash just after 1:40 pm

Officer Franco Pepi, a California Highway Patrol spokesperson, said Thursday afternoon that three adults, including a pregnant woman, and an infant were killed in the crash.

Authorities later found another person’s remains inside one of the burned vehicles, he said. That person’s gender or age weren’t known Thursday night.

The pregnant woman also lost her unborn child, which the CHP was counting as an additional fatality “due to rare circumstances,” Pepi said.

A CHP officer walks past burned wreckage of vehicles near a gas station after a crash

Law enforcement officials investigate a fiery crash in which multiple people were killed in Windsor Hills on Thursday afternoon.

(Jason Armond/Los Angeles Times)

Authorities took eight people to Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center for treatment, he said. Of those injured, six were teens and one suffered major injuries.

Surveillance video of the crash shows a Mercedes-Benz barreling down La Brea at high speed as dozens of cars cross the intersection on Slauson. The Mercedes runs a red light and slams into cars in the intersection, then bursts into flames and hurtles into a light pole, where it comes to rest.

After the crash, a streak of fire burns on the ground.

Smoke could be seen billowing from miles away.

An officer kneels on the ground next to vehicles and debris lying in the street

Police believe the driver of a Mercedes-Benz caused the crash.

(Jason Armond/Los Angeles Times)

A woman who did not want to be named told The Times a Mercedes-Benz hit her car as she was leaving a United Oil gas station.

“I was getting out, had got gas,” she said. “All of a sudden that Mercedes is coming at me on… fire. I didn’t have any time to think about it. It hit my car. I veered, hit the bench on the side.”

The crash caused her to fear a gasoline-fueled explosion, she told The Times.

Nearby, the wrecked Mercedes-Benz with a smashed hood had crashed into a curb.

Investigators believe the driver of the Mercedes-Benz was responsible for the crash, Pepi said.

A body covered by a sheet lies in the street next to debris and the burned wreckage of a vehicle

A pregnant woman was among those killed in Thursday afternoon’s crash in Windsor Hills.

(Jason Armond/Los Angeles Times)

The cause of the crash was not immediately known, but the CHP spokesperson said investigators determined the Mercedes was traveling “at a high rate of speed” and ran a red light while traveling southbound on La Brea.

The driver has been identified only as a female adult, Pepi said.

The woman was hospitalized but was conscious and speaking with CHP investigators Thursday night, he said, adding that he did not know the extent of her injuries.

At least six vehicles were involved in the crash, three of which were engulfed in flames, Pepi said. The others sustained moderate damage.

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Airline IndiGo claims to have halved passenger disembarkation times

A low-cost airline has come up with what could be a game-changing idea to get passengers off airplanes quicker and keep the jets in the sky for longer.

One of the frustrations of air travel is the slow process of leaving the aircraft, with passengers having to squeeze through a single left hand door at the front of the plane.

If you’re at the back of the plane that can mean long waits as sometimes hundreds of people disembark in front of you.

To speed this up some airlines, including Virgin Australia and Qantas owned Jetstar, regularly allow passengers to disembark from a set of stairs at the rear of the airplane.

But India’s largest carrier IndiGo has gone one step further and has introduced a third door for passengers to exit through.

And uniquely, the third door is on the right hand side of the plane which is rarely – if ever – used as an exit in anything other than an emergency.

The carrier reckons it could almost halve the time it takes to get passengers off the plane from up to 13 minutes to a mere seven.

“The new Three-Point Disembarkation process will be carried out from two forward and one rear exit ramp, making IndiGo the first airline to use this process,” an IndiGo spokesman told India’s Hindustan Times.

A video uploaded by Indian business journalist Sumit Chaturvedi shows the new process with passengers leaving an IndiGo Airbus A320 aircraft via the various ramps.

While the giant Airbus A380 “superjumbo” often boards and disembarks by three doors, this is the first time it’s been done for a smaller narrow-body plane typically used on domestic and short-haul routes, such as the A320.

“An A320 aircraft usually takes around 13 minutes for its passengers to de-board the aircraft. However, the new process will make the drill faster and will reduce the disembarkation time from 13 minutes to seven minutes,” the IndiGo spokesman said.

That could be good for passengers who won’t have to hang around on-board.

But it could be a boon for the airline too. The quicker passengers can leave the plane, the shorter the turnaround time to get it back in the air with more fare-paying passengers on board.

Do time savings add up?

However, some are skeptical of the airline’s claims.

Ben Schlappig of US aviation blog One Mile At A Time questioned if all the claimed time savings would occur in real-life settings.

“The process of actually getting out the door is one bottleneck, but I’d think that getting down the aisle is another thing that takes time, and that’s still an issue, even with a second door in the front.”

Why plans usually board from the left

Traditionally, jets board and deplane from the left, despite doors being on both sides of the fuselage.

This helps to keep passengers separated from ground crew in what can be a hectic and potentially dangerous environment. For instance, staff loading bags into the aircraft from the right don’t have to worry about tripping over travelers who remain on the left.

In addition, the right hand door is often used to bring supplies on board an aircraft, such as water and food, at the same time as passengers enter and exit on the left.

Initially IndiGo’s routes in and out of Delhi as well as the cities of Mumbai and Bengaluru will feature Three-Point Disembarkation. But the airline has said it could roll out the new process across the whole country and its fleet of 181 A320s in just 90 days.

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Here Are Pokémon Scarlet And Violet’s Exclusives (So Far)

Vulpix or Growlithe? Zangoose or Seviper? Ever since Arceus made the world in its image of him, Pokemon fans have had to grapple with a huge choice: which version to get. That quandary will remain in place for the latest games, pokemon scarlet and violet.

Every generation of Nintendo’s zeitgeisty monster-hunting RPGs splits up its roster of Pokémon, with a handful showing up in one game while remaining absent from the counterpart (and vice versa). This strategy makes a certain degree of sense, if cynically. Pokemon games have always launched as a pair. Making some Pokémon available in one version but not the other potentially incentivizes additional sales. (Nintendo reports sales figures for Pokemon games lumped together.) Or, less cynically, it forces players to actually engage with each other and trade.

pokemon scarlet and violet are not different. We already knew the legendary Pokémon, two motorcycle-inspired dragons called Koraidon and Miraidon, were exclusive to Scarlet and violet respectively. But in the wake of a massive news dump this week, the roster is slowly coming into clarity. Here are the version-exclusive Pokémon known so far, a list we’ll keep updated as more information becomes available in the run-up to the game’s November 18 release on Switch.

pokemon scarlet exclusives

  • Larvitatea rock-ground-type lizard creature who first debuted in Pokémon Gold and Silver.
  • Pupitate, the second-stage evolution of Larvitar. It floats for some reason. Though Pupitar hasn’t been officially confirmed, we’re including it since it evolves from a confirmed Pokémon. (One caveat though: In pokemon sword and ShieldSlowpoke, who has been part of the series since the days of Net and Bluecould not evolve unless you picked up the expansions.)
  • tyrannite, the final stage of Larvitar’s evolution chain. Unlike the prior two evolutions, Tyrannitar drops the ground-type affiliation and is rock-dark-type.
  • stonejournera rock-type from pokemon sword and Shield who, I guess, is supposed to be a play on the famous Stonehenge monument in England.
  • Koraidon, Scarlet‘s legendary Pokemon and cover model.

pokemon violet exclusives

  • Bagona dragon-type Pokémon who debuted in Pokemon
  • Shelgon, the second-stage evolution of Bagon. The same logic that applies to Larvitar’s evolution chain applies to Bagon’s, too.
  • Salamence, a dragon-flying type Pokémon and the final stage of Bagon’s evolution chain. Some people (guilty as charged) are convinced Salamence is the coolest Pokémon of all time, ever.
  • Eiscuean ice-type penguin Pokémon with a giant ice cube for a face.
  • Miraidon, violet‘s legendary Pokemon and cover model.

pokemon scarlet and violet are set to reimagine other long-standing aspects of the series. Set in a region called Paldea, inspired by the IRL Iberian Peninsula, these games are fully open-world for the first time in series history. There’s four-player co-op. Gyms are back, with one leader in particular leaving many fans sexually confused. And in lieu of debatably silly features like “Mega Evolution,” some Pokémon are capable of a thing called — this is a very real word, by the way — “terastallizing,” which means they cover themselves in crystals and can change their type on the fly.

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Catholic church says they never rejected Britney Spears’ request to get married

St Monica Catholic Church in Santa Monica, California, has denied ever rejecting Britney Spears‘request to get married.

The singer recently shared a photo of the church’s interior on Instagram, claiming that she wanted to marry there, but wasn’t allowed because she isn’t Catholic and they require a “test.” The post has now been deleted.

But now the church claims the singer never visited them in the first place.

A representative from the church revealed to TMZ that after checking their records, Spears never appeared on their visitor list, adding that they have no record of her asking them to host her nuptials to husband Sam Asghari.

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St Monica’s Catholic Church claims Spears never visited their place of worship, or asked if she could be married there. (instagram)

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The representative also explained that in order to marry at the church, at least one partner needs to be Catholic. Spears was raised Baptist, while Asghari is reportedly Muslim.

They allege that the photo Spears posted was from a live-stream of one of their services, and not obtained by her.

In the deleted post, Spears shared a lengthy caption: “This is where I originally wanted to get married during COVID !!!!”

“I wanted to go every Sunday … it’s beautiful and they said it was temporarily shut down due to COVID !!!! Then 2 years later when I wanted to get married there they said I had to be catholic and go through TEST !!! !”

She then signed off with: “Isn’t church supposed to be open to all ????”

She is yet to respond to the claims by St Monica’s Catholic Church.

Spears and Asghari married in a fairytale affair in Junecelebrating their nuptials in the backyard of her Thousand Oaks, California home.

Guests at the wedding included a list of high-profile friends, including Madonna, Paris Hilton, Drew Barrymore and Selena Gomez. Donatella Versace, who also attended the wedding, designed Spears’ wedding dress for her.

Spears and Asghari married in a fairytale affair in June this year at her California home. (Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP)

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Spears and Asghari met in 2016, and kept their love alive right through the draining years of their conservatorship.

In September 2021, they announced their engagement and in November that year her 13-year conservatorship came to an end.

Spears had previously claimed the conservatorship had prohibited her from marrying Asghari or starting a family with him.

Spears shares two sons, Sean Preston, 16, and Jayden James, with ex-husband Kevin Federline.

She and Federline were married from October 2004 to July 2007.

She was also briefly married to her childhood friend Jason Alexander in January 2004, for just 55 hours.

Alexander made headlines this year when he crashed Spears’ wedding to Asgharireportedly making his way past her security and into her home.

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Victoria’s police association calls for sentencing law reform after Warrnambool assault

The union representing Victoria Police is calling on the state government to overhaul sentencing law for serious offenses to bring punishments in line with community expectations.

The Office of Public Prosecutions yesterday announced it would not appeal against a sentence imposed last month for a man who viciously attacked two Warrnambool police officers.

Steven John Cleary, 50, was sentenced in the County Court to three years and two months in jail, with a non-parole period of one year and 10 months, for the brutal assault.

The Warrnambool man, who heard the court heard delusions including that he was the king of Australia and Norway, admitted to using a metal baseball bat to repeatedly strike an officer to the head while he was on the ground.

Victoria Police Chief Commissioner Shane Patton had requested a submission be prepared for the Director of Public Prosecutions requesting an appeal after the “inadequate” sentence.

‘Broken’ system

Police Association Victoria secretary Wayne Gatt said the case represented a “dire fault” within the legal system that needed to be addressed.

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Wayne Gatt says the government must ensure sentencing is in line with community expectations. (abcnews)

“Governments hold the responsibility of making sure the outcomes from courts, that laws the courts must consider when sentencing, actually deliver the outcomes and deliver community expectations,” he said.

“If that’s not happening, it points to a system that is broken. It points to a system that requires reform.”

A Victorian Government spokesperson said in a statement work was under way to “review and modernize” Victoria’s sentencing laws.

The spokesperson said the Attorney-General had asked the Department of Justice and Community Safety to look at the outcome of the case as part of that work.

two police officers are attacked by two people in the street
Police body-worn camera vision of the assault was shown to the court.(Supplied: County Court of Victoria)

“This work will occur in consultation with police and other emergency services in addition to victims’ groups and others,” the statement said.

Mr Gatt said it was not just an issue for police officers seriously assaulted at work, but for all victims of serious crime.

“That victim of crime could be you, it could be me, it could be anyone in our community,” he said.

“The system needs to change for all.”

Officers traumatized

Police body camera footage played to the court showed two police officers attempting to stop a 15-year-old on the street who was not wearing a mask, which was mandated at the time.

The boy contacted Cleary via walkie-talkie and he appeared moments later and rushed forward at the officers.

He continued the frenzied attack despite attempts to restrain him using a taser.

A man holds baseball bat covered in nylon sheath as police officer points taser at him
Clearly attacked the officers with a metal baseball bat covered in a nylon sheath.(Supplied: County Court of Victoria)

One of the victims, Senior Constable Rowan Baldam, told the court he thought he was going to die.

He said he and his colleague had considered leaving their dream job.

Defense lawyer Jonathan Barrera told the court Cleary had severe impaired mental functioning and experienced delusions, that were “active at the time of offending.”

Clearly you have served 300 days in custody since the attack, so you will be eligible for parole in a little more than a year.

No appeal lodged

The Office of Public Prosecutions (OPP) released a statement explaining its decision not to appeal the sentence.

“In light of all the relevant sentencing considerations, there is no reasonable prosect that the Court of Appeal would consider the sentence to be manifestly inadequate,” the statement said.

“Those sentencing considerations include the application of the Verdins principles, the utilitarian value of the plea of ​​guilty and the absence of any prior convictions.”

Clearly had pleaded guilty to assaulting an emergency worker on duty and intentionally causing injury.

A man lies on the ground after assault as police officer points at him
The court heard Clearly repeatedly refused to follow police instructions.(Supplied: County Court of Victoria )

sentencing law

Sentencing is dictated by various legal principles found in the 600-page Sentencing Act and case law.

Verdins case law states mental impairment can reduce the offender’s moral culpability for the offense and affect the weight given to just punishment, denunciation and deterrence as purposes of sentencing.

It also justifies a less severe sentence where there is a serious risk of imprisonment could have a significant adverse effect on the offender’s mental health.

The outside of the County Court of Victoria building.
Clearly he was sentenced in the County Court of Victoria. (ABC News: Patrick Rocca)

Judges are required to weigh up all factors including the gravity of the crime, the harm to the victims, the offender’s individual circumstances including their prior convictions and prospects of rehabilitation.

Mr Gatt said deterrence had become a “peripheral issue” when it should be a “fundamental principle” in sentencing for serious offences.

He said “any right-minded Victorian” could see Cleary’s sentence did not fit the crime, highlighting a need to change sentencing law.

“[The] advice from the OPP … represents a dire fault within our legal system, not within the OPP,” he said.

“This has to change, but it is beyond the role of the OPP to do that.

“Governments hold this responsibility.”

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‘Bizarre and uncomfortable’: Adams wants photos of city job applicants

Of current nine and past officials interviewed for this story, most voiced concern that the practice is already leading to staffing decisions based more on race and ethnicity than merit, even if they said they support a diversified workforce. And nearly all of them said it has added another obstacle to an already slow hiring process.

In two emails reviewed by POLITICO, mayoral staffers advised about a dozen high-ranking employees to submit pictures of people they want to bring on board for the mayor’s review.

“Flagging that the Mayor would love all agencies upper leadership in this type of style,” reads an email an Adams staffer sent on April 19, referring to an attached template of existing pictures and job descriptions of agency brass. “Clarifying also that the avatars in the attached should be actual photos as the Mayor likes to begin to recognize folks faces.”

The new protocol, described by officials across several agencies, is widely viewed as a measure to diversify the city’s workforce — a priority for the new mayor, whose slate of City Hall deputies predominantly comprises women and people of color.

“There’s no other way to interpret it,” said a high-ranking city official, who would only speak on the condition of anonymity to talk freely about an internal policy.

The person recalled receiving the instructions verbally, and being told by someone who works in the mayor’s office of appointments that Adams wanted agencies to hire people who “reflect the constitutions we serve.”

“Everyone knew what it was. There was no question. It was the first thing everybody said: ‘We’re going to start counting complexions now,’” one recently-departed City Hall employee said about the practice.

Others say it has slowed the hiring process at a time of increased job vacancies — 8 percent of municipal jobs were unfilled as of April, according to data from the Citizens Budget Commission. And some city staffers questioned whether it is appropriate to make hiring decisions based on demographics.

Adams spokesperson Fabien Levy stressed the policy is “about respect for our colleagues and knowing who they are when we arrive at an event.”

“City Hall reviews the summary of all final candidates for senior level positions at agencies to ensure the mayor and we at City Hall know who is point on projects when working with them,” Levy added. “The Adams administration is hiring the best people for the best jobs in the best city in the world. And we are committed to building a team that reflects the city they serve and the administration they represent. Every hire is judged on their qualifications and whether they will be able to deliver for New Yorkers day after day.”

One of the group emails reviewed by POLITICO, titled “Hiring Slide template,” instructs agency officials to submit to the mayor’s team organizational charts with the names and titles of existing staffers.

The April 15 missive states that Deputy Mayor for Operations Meera Joshi had recently met with Adams to discuss hiring and showed him a slide of his own proposed team.

“The Mayor really liked the org chart and he asked that all DM teams use this as a template moving forward as it relates to team structures,” the City Hall staffer wrote. “I’ve attached a template here for all of you — I’m happy to help for slide design if you need support in this. Note, the avatar are space for you to provide a photo of the team member.”

Two agency employees who are tasked with hiring staff said they are not required to ask job candidates for photos, so long as they can provide images to the mayor. They said they often scour social media sites like LinkedIn for headshots. Once obtained, they must paste the picture into their agency’s organizational chart — which includes photographs and job descriptions of existing officials — and highlight the would-be newcomers in yellow, according to a copy of the PowerPoint reviewed by POLITICO.

“The whole hiring process this City Hall set up is difficult enough, and the photo requirement just takes it from hard to bizarre and uncomfortable,” another high-ranking agency official said, speaking on condition of anonymity.

A New York City-based employment attorney said no law prohibits hiring decisions based upon race and ethnicity if it furthers a goal of diversifying a workforce.

“If a company called me and said, ‘Hey listen we really want to increase the diversity at our company, especially at senior levels, do you think it would help us if we used photos in order to increase it,’ I don’t see how that would be a problem if it actually helped,” lawyer Jeanne Christensen, a partner at Wigdor Law LLP, said in an interview. “They’re entitled to take steps to try to fulfill that diversity goal, providing that in doing that they’re not running afoul of the existing law.”

Her one note of caution: Job candidates should not be required to present photographs, though there is nothing legally barring officials from searching for headshots online. “I would say you better be sure you have their permission and they’re doing this voluntarily,” she said.

In fact, the US Equal Employment Opportunity Commission addresses this matter, noting on its website: “Employers should not ask for a photograph of an applicant. If needed for identification purposes, a photograph may be obtained after an offer of employment is made and accepted.”

When asked about his rationale for the policy on Thursday, Adams reiterated a desire to recognize city workers’ faces.

“Nothing I think is more disrespectful than when people work for you on your executive team and you don’t know who they are. I should know my employees, I should walk up to them and say thank you, I should know what they look like,” he said after an unrelated press conference in Queens, before arguing that people who believe otherwise are merely angry that he enjoys being elderly.

“Now, for those who have other reasons that I decide that I want an org chart, that’s up to them. You know, a lot of people just start their day with saying, ‘Let me see what I can think hateful about.’ You know, I start my day off saying, ‘Wow, I’m lucky to be the mayor of New York City,’” he added.

“You know, I’m amazed at how many people are upset that I’m happy that I’m older.”

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Owner of notorious Greek restaurant hits back over newlyweds claims of eyewatering prices and bad service

The owner of a restaurant that charged newlyweds a staggering $850 for a quick snack has hit back at the couple, branding them “liars”.

Alex and Lindsay Breen ordered just one beer, one cocktail and a dozen oysters — and were then hit with the eyewatering bill by the DK Oyster bar on the Greek island of Mykonos.

Lindsay said she asked for a drinks menu but was repeatedly fobbed off before finally giving in and ordering an Aperol spritz.

When the couple were ready to leave, they asked for the bill — but rather than giving it to them at the table, Alex was taken to a back room to pay.

On being shown the massive bill, Alex was shocked and asked for a breakdown, which they gave him in Greek.

DK Oyster owner Dimitrios Kalamaras.
Camera IconDK Oyster owner Dimitrios Kalamaras. Credit: Facebook

Feeling under pressure and getting a “sketchy vibe”, Alex paid the bill.

But DK Oyster owner Dimitrios Kalamaras said the honeymooners were out of their minds.

“This person who is trying to get famous through Instagram posts under the name of Lyndsay Breen, starts with a lie,” he told Kennedy News.

“She claims that she ‘repeatedly asked for a cocktail menu’ and adds that ‘the server didn’t seem to want to provide one’.

“Despite that, she placed an order. An experienced well traveled person … she did what most adults in the right mind would not do — she ordered drinks and food from a waiter who refused to present a menu.

“This false claim has been used so much against our restaurant by dozens of anonymous users in TripAdvisor that we decided to place three huge blackboards by the entrance of the restaurant displaying the menu and the prices.”

While the restaurant does have prices on blackboards, tourists say it is misleading with prices based on per 100g rather than the usual 1kg as is the norm at most eateries in Greece.

Mr Kalamaras added that if someone was unhappy with the service before they ordered, they could “leave or request to talk to the manager”.

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