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Why young men support Andrew Tate’s ideologies

According to Sydney student Ben Smith, Andrew Tate is exactly the role model his generation needs.

The 19-year-old started following the self-proclaimed “self-help guru” – whose violent and misogynistic videos have amassed more than 11.6 billion views on TikTok – for his takes on relationships and success.

“He just says it like it is. It’s like, he doesn’t worry about what people think about him,” Smith told The Oz.

“He just says what he wants to say.”

Comments under news.com.au’s own coverage of the former big brother contestant and kickboxer’s rise to infamy have echoed a similar sentiment.

“Tate is KING!!! He’s exposing the corrupt, the matrix styled control system and pathetic elite ruling class,” declared one, while another called for “Andrew Tate for PM”.

“Pushing back against all the crazy feminists,” said a third.

“Love him or hate him, he is making bank on leftist outrage. For that he deserves a salute. Not that I would want my son watching or emulating him.”

It seems incomprehensible that the views espoused by Tate – that rape victims “must bear some responsibility” for their attacks; or that women should be choked by their male partners and stopped from going out – could be perceived as anything but vile.

Yet men around the world – especially young ones in western nations – are not just resonating with the content creator, but making TikTok accounts using Tate’s picture and name to further perpetuate his message.

“It’s in the interests of men to return [Tate’s] views, because they serve the status quo power, and reinforces the idea that women are there to serve men,” FullStop Australia CEO Hayley Foster told The Oz.

“Perpetuating these views results in them having more access to power and using women for their own purposes.”

Teachers from an all-boys secondary school shared with New Zealand’s Shit You Should Care About podcast last week that Tate “is becoming an almost poisonous addiction” of their students.

“The majority of our students, especially the juniors, are OBSESSED with him and the outlandish views he portrays,” they wrote.

“What’s more terrifying is they actually see him as a role model. They’re starting to genuinely believe being successful is synonymous with abusing women.”

The school’s 13- to 15-year-old students “are doing speeches at the moment and they all want to do speeches on how inspiring he is”, the teachers added.

While in the playground, and around the classroom, they’d overheard boys parroting Tate’s points of view – that “women who are sexually assaulted are ‘asking for it’ due to ‘what they wear’”, that “some women ‘dress like hookers’”, and that “if a woman has had abortions already she loses the right to use the statement ‘her body her choice’”.

“[We] just wanted to fill you all in on the genuine terror that your young female teachers are most likely facing at the moment. Especially if a school refuses to acknowledge it as a community issue,” they said.

“We know we cannot control what our boys watch but we do want to educate them on moral decisions and viewpoints due to the poignant age they are at.”

Off the back of a segment about Tate on The Project on Sunday night, radio host and former reality TV star Abbie Chatfield said she’d “absolutely” seen evidence of the British-American’s influence in her own experiences online of late.

“I’m getting DMs from what appear to be early-teen boys saying, ‘I hope Andrew Tate destroys you’, or things along that line,” the 27-year-old said.

“I also get comments calling me ‘Abbie Tate’, and comments on TikTok especially. That’s where it’s really, really rife.”

Fellow co-host Rachel Corbett called out the social media platform for failing to remove Tate’s “dangerous” content.

“When kids look at Instagram and TikTok, and the idea of ​​11.6 billion views as a success, that then says, ‘Well those views must be good, because they look at how famous he is. So I want to emulate that.’ It’s just really dangerous,” she said.

As National Director of White Ribbon Australia, Allan Ball, explained to news.com.au, “the use of gaming, extreme bravado and music [in the videos of Tate] overlays his deplorable actions with a filter of normalcy”.

“Impressionable young minds are drawn in by money, power and unwavering confidence, to become part of a tribe,” he said.

Behavioral scientist Juliette Tobias-Webb agreed, telling The Oz that figures like Tate attract younger audiences specifically because they’re prone to risky behaviour, and are less likely to understand the consequences of their actions.

“It’s a stage when you haven’t had serious relationships or you probably haven’t been held accountable for really poor behaviour,” Dr Tobias-Webb said.

“They haven’t developed the empathy skills and that inhibition to sort of curb some of these urges.”

Mr Ball said that “we need to reframe Tate’s commentary and ask the hard questions to better understand what young men believe are the benefits and drawbacks of having these beliefs”.

“We need to be sharing messages of equality, respect and the ways we can work together to stop violence – hate and abuse don’t have a monopoly on what constitutes viral content,” he added.

“If Tate’s body of hateful, demeaning and misogynistic musings are not sufficient for TikTok to act, then we must work together as a community to provide young men with an alternate lens of respect, compassion and equality.”

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Why young men support Andrew Tate’s ideologies

According to Sydney student Ben Smith, Andrew Tate is exactly the role model his generation needs.

The 19-year-old started following the self-proclaimed “self-help guru” – whose violent and misogynistic videos have amassed more than 11.6 billion views on TikTok – for his takes on relationships and success.

“He just says it like it is. It’s like, he doesn’t worry about what people think about him,” Smith told The Oz.

“He just says what he wants to say.”

Comments under news.com.au’s own coverage of the former big brother contestant and kickboxer’s rise to infamy have echoed a similar sentiment.

“Tate is KING!!! He’s exposing the corrupt, the matrix styled control system and pathetic elite ruling class,” declared one, while another called for “Andrew Tate for PM”.

“Pushing back against all the crazy feminists,” said a third.

“Love him or hate him, he is making bank on leftist outrage. For that he deserves a salute. Not that I would want my son watching or emulating him.”

It seems incomprehensible that the views espoused by Tate – that rape victims “must bear some responsibility” for their attacks; or that women should be choked by their male partners and stopped from going out – could be perceived as anything but vile.

Yet men around the world – especially young ones in western nations – are not just resonating with the content creator, but making TikTok accounts using Tate’s picture and name to further perpetuate his message.

“It’s in the interests of men to return [Tate’s] views, because they serve the status quo power, and reinforces the idea that women are there to serve men,” FullStop Australia CEO Hayley Foster told The Oz.

“Perpetuating these views results in them having more access to power and using women for their own purposes.”

Teachers from an all-boys secondary school shared with New Zealand’s Shit You Should Care About podcast last week that Tate “is becoming an almost poisonous addiction” of their students.

“The majority of our students, especially the juniors, are OBSESSED with him and the outlandish views he portrays,” they wrote.

“What’s more terrifying is they actually see him as a role model. They’re starting to genuinely believe being successful is synonymous with abusing women.”

The school’s 13- to 15-year-old students “are doing speeches at the moment and they all want to do speeches on how inspiring he is”, the teachers added.

While in the playground, and around the classroom, they’d overheard boys parroting Tate’s points of view – that “women who are sexually assaulted are ‘asking for it’ due to ‘what they wear’”, that “some women ‘dress like hookers’”, and that “if a woman has had abortions already she loses the right to use the statement ‘her body her choice’”.

“[We] just wanted to fill you all in on the genuine terror that your young female teachers are most likely facing at the moment. Especially if a school refuses to acknowledge it as a community issue,” they said.

“We know we cannot control what our boys watch but we do want to educate them on moral decisions and viewpoints due to the poignant age they are at.”

Off the back of a segment about Tate on The Project on Sunday night, radio host and former reality TV star Abbie Chatfield said she’d “absolutely” seen evidence of the British-American’s influence in her own experiences online of late.

“I’m getting DMs from what appear to be early-teen boys saying, ‘I hope Andrew Tate destroys you’, or things along that line,” the 27-year-old said.

“I also get comments calling me ‘Abbie Tate’, and comments on TikTok especially. That’s where it’s really, really rife.”

Fellow co-host Rachel Corbett called out the social media platform for failing to remove Tate’s “dangerous” content.

“When kids look at Instagram and TikTok, and the idea of ​​11.6 billion views as a success, that then says, ‘Well those views must be good, because they look at how famous he is. So I want to emulate that.’ It’s just really dangerous,” she said.

As National Director of White Ribbon Australia, Allan Ball, explained to news.com.au, “the use of gaming, extreme bravado and music [in the videos of Tate] overlays his deplorable actions with a filter of normalcy”.

“Impressionable young minds are drawn in by money, power and unwavering confidence, to become part of a tribe,” he said.

Behavioral scientist Juliette Tobias-Webb agreed, telling The Oz that figures like Tate attract younger audiences specifically because they’re prone to risky behaviour, and are less likely to understand the consequences of their actions.

“It’s a stage when you haven’t had serious relationships or you probably haven’t been held accountable for really poor behaviour,” Dr Tobias-Webb said.

“They haven’t developed the empathy skills and that inhibition to sort of curb some of these urges.”

Mr Ball said that “we need to reframe Tate’s commentary and ask the hard questions to better understand what young men believe are the benefits and drawbacks of having these beliefs”.

“We need to be sharing messages of equality, respect and the ways we can work together to stop violence – hate and abuse don’t have a monopoly on what constitutes viral content,” he added.

“If Tate’s body of hateful, demeaning and misogynistic musings are not sufficient for TikTok to act, then we must work together as a community to provide young men with an alternate lens of respect, compassion and equality.”

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Gordon Ramsay’s model daughter shares bikini photo to Instagram

Gordon Ramsay’s daughter Holly is all grown up.

The 22-year-old recently wowed fans after sharing a bikini photo during a getaway to the British coastal town of Cornwall.

In the snap, the model could be seen wearing a cobalt blue string bikini with a white linen shirt worn loosely over the top.

Her blonde locks can be seen falling over her shoulders as she turns her face to lap up the UK’s summer weather.

Holly, the twin of the celebrity chef’s eldest son Jack, captioned the post: “Sun kissed.”

Fans of the “lifestyle influencer” have been quick to flood her post with streams of adoring comments, with many labeling the “stunning” photo.

“Hope you don’t mind me saying this but you look stunning in your photos,” one said.

“Absolutely beautiful,” another wrote.

Others commented on how “lovely” her $423 two-piece swimmers, from supermodel Heidi Klum’s bikini line, are.

“Such a lovely colour,” one wrote.

“That cossie looks great on you,” another said.

It’s not the first time Holly has wowed her 310,000 followers with a bikini photo – last year she caused a stir posing for a snap on a sun-soaked beach in the Maldives.

In the picture, Holly flaunted her abs in an orange patterned bikini as she relaxed on the sand after jetting off for a dreamy post-Christmas getaway at the end of December.

The relaxing break came after she celebrated one year sober following a secret battle with alcohol.

The daughter of the expletive-loving chef shared her milestone achievement with her Instagram followers and admitted it wasn’t easy.

Holly has previously opened up about being sexually assaulted twice at the age of 18, leading to a devastating battle with PTSD that saw her spend three months in a mental health hospital.

She bravely spoke of the ordeal for the first time in last August on her podcast 21 & Over.

The assaults took place when she was an 18-year-old university student and she credited her dad with helping her deal with the aftermath.

Holly is one of five of Gordon and Tana’s children, along with her twin Jack, sisters Megan, 24, and Tilly, 20, and youngest brother Oscar, 2.

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Gordon Ramsay’s model daughter shares bikini photo to Instagram

Gordon Ramsay’s daughter Holly is all grown up.

The 22-year-old recently wowed fans after sharing a bikini photo during a getaway to the British coastal town of Cornwall.

In the snap, the model could be seen wearing a cobalt blue string bikini with a white linen shirt worn loosely over the top.

Her blonde locks can be seen falling over her shoulders as she turns her face to lap up the UK’s summer weather.

Holly, the twin of the celebrity chef’s eldest son Jack, captioned the post: “Sun kissed.”

Fans of the “lifestyle influencer” have been quick to flood her post with streams of adoring comments, with many labeling the “stunning” photo.

“Hope you don’t mind me saying this but you look stunning in your photos,” one said.

“Absolutely beautiful,” another wrote.

Others commented on how “lovely” her $423 two-piece swimmers, from supermodel Heidi Klum’s bikini line, are.

“Such a lovely colour,” one wrote.

“That cossie looks great on you,” another said.

It’s not the first time Holly has wowed her 310,000 followers with a bikini photo – last year she caused a stir posing for a snap on a sun-soaked beach in the Maldives.

In the picture, Holly flaunted her abs in an orange patterned bikini as she relaxed on the sand after jetting off for a dreamy post-Christmas getaway at the end of December.

The relaxing break came after she celebrated one year sober following a secret battle with alcohol.

The daughter of the expletive-loving chef shared her milestone achievement with her Instagram followers and admitted it wasn’t easy.

Holly has previously opened up about being sexually assaulted twice at the age of 18, leading to a devastating battle with PTSD that saw her spend three months in a mental health hospital.

She bravely spoke of the ordeal for the first time in last August on her podcast 21 & Over.

The assaults took place when she was an 18-year-old university student and she credited her dad with helping her deal with the aftermath.

Holly is one of five of Gordon and Tana’s children, along with her twin Jack, sisters Megan, 24, and Tilly, 20, and youngest brother Oscar, 2.

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Marc Bargero: Former Aussie boxing champion facing jail

Former Australian boxing champion Marc Bargero is fighting to avoid being sent to jail after being found guilty of drunkenly sexually assaulting a teenage girl as she slept.

Bargero contested allegations he had performed an oral sex act on the 15-year-old girl after putting her to bed, however was found guilty after facing a judge-alone trial earlier this year.

Bargero confessed to “sniffing” the girl’s crotch in an attempt to relive his first sexual experience, but had denied he had licked the girl’s vagina.

The court was told during his trial that Bargero was visiting a woman at her home on Sydney’s northern beaches when the teen arrived with a group of other youths.

When the girl passed out after drinking alcohol, Bargero took her upstairs and placed her on a bed.

The court was previously told he returned a short time later, moved the girl towards the edge of the bed, pulled her pants down, got on her knees, kissed her stomach and licked her vagina.

The girl woke up and fled downstairs, crying and saying: “I just woke up and he was just eating me out.”

In an interview with police, Bargero told officers he wanted to relive his first sexual experience, where he would get under a table and “sniff” an older woman.

“I had my head down there but I was just sniffin’ it,” Bargero told police, the court previously heard.

“I got carried away at the moment, I got a bit too drunk.”

He stated that he had not touched the girl’s vagina.

However, Judge Tim Gartelmann accepted the girl’s evidence and noted that due to his level of intoxication, Bargero could not remember all he did that night.

Bargero was found guilty of sexual intercourse without consent and intentionally sexually touching the girl.

During a sentence hearing on Friday afternoon, his barrister Stephen Russell said he had shown considerable contrition, despite pleading not guilty and fighting the allegations.

Mr Russell said Bargero had experienced significant “public shame and humiliation” through social media and the media.

The court heard that during his police interview he had asked officers if he could meet with the complainant and her family to apologize for his actions.

He had also offered to plead guilty to lesser charges, however it was rejected by the prosecution.

Mr Russell said Bargero had been “through the ringer” in life, had suffered mental illness and depression and had to be hospitalized and medicated following the death of his mother.

He submitted that Bargero could serve his sentence by way of a community corrections order or intensive corrections order, pointing to his lack of criminal history.

“He’s a man who had no history of anything like this,” Mr Russell said.

“People speak of him being respectful. The evidence given before your honor by a female witness indicated that he was very respectful towards women.

“This event must be seen as… a complete aberration. And he knows that himself.

“He was offended by his own behavior that he believed he had committed at that time, he stressed it so profoundly in both interviews.”

However, the crown prosecution submitted he should be jailed, with Judge Gartelmann to decide his fate later this month.

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Constance Hall’s rant about ‘d*ck’ pics after man sends explicit image

Constance Hall has slammed “desperate, lonely” men who send unsolicited photos after receiving a “d*ck pic” from a total stranger.

The mummy blogger posted a lengthy rant after she received an explicit image from a random man on an app that she had ironically downloaded at the request of “paranoid friends” who wanted to communicate safely.

After receiving the image, along with a string of disturbing sexual text messages, the outspoken mum tried to “put herself in the shoes” of males who send these pictures to understand why they do this.

However she concluded that there was no circumstance in the world in which she would send such a “depraved” photo – labeling it an “assault” against the unwitting recipient.

“What would drive me to the point of being gratified by sending a close-up cl*t pic of my [vagina] to someone who I’m 99 per cent sure doesn’t want to see my clacker?” she wrote on Facebook.

“Could it be depravity? If I had never met anyone who actually wanted to see my [vagina] could I be driven to send it out there anyway? Umm that’s a no.

“What if I thought that my cl*toris was a hooded mystic possessing some kind of power or blessings (which isn’t that far-fetched), meaning that even though these people didn’t want to see it… the photo is for their own good? Hmm no I’d just keep the blessings for those who consented to them.”

She also decided she wouldn’t send a “cl*t pic” if she was “terrified” of the opposite sex but had a high libido – or if she had “throbbing” genitals.

Despite toying with various reasons why men send unsolicited images, the 38-year-old concluded that “there isn’t enough empathy in the world that could help me understand”.

In an unexpected twist, Constance was able to have “sympathy” for the males who commit this awful act.

“Now that I’ve let the shock settle. I do feel a little sorry for the poor excited man, alone in his room, [erection] in one hand iPhone trying to get the best angle in the other, dreaming about the wide world of sexual encounters being had all over the place, none of which he was invited to,” she said.

However, even with a sprinkling of “sympathy” for the “desperate, lonely” men who do this, she pointed out it was a criminal offense and a form of assault.

Constance’s rant was widely well received, with many praising the mum-of-five and stepmum of two for her “clever” post.

“Never in my life will I understand why ‘men’ send (ad*ck) pic! Send back a pic of a scoring panel!” one woman wrote.

“I’m in a relationship now but before I wasn’t and I found this kind of behavior really disgusting and degrading… hard no, from me,” another said.

While one woman said: “Weird that men think it is a turn on.”

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Horror rise in Queensland men threatening to burn their partners alive revealed

Domestic and family violence perpetrators in Queensland are increasingly threatening to set their current and former partners alight, a new study has found, with cases spiking after the horrific 2020 murders of Hannah Clarke and her children.

The report, co-authored by UQ TC Beirne School of Law senior lecturer Joseph Lelliott and associate lecturer Rebecca Wallis, details testimonies from seven non-government domestic and family violence service providers in the state’s southeast.

Direct and implicit threats of dousing are a form of coercive control that has not been formally studied before.

But they are on the rise: one participant told the survey of 17 workers last year that abusers sent the stories of Clarke – whose three children were burned alive in their car in February 2020 by her estranged husband – and Kelly Wilkinson – who was set alight in her Gold Coast backyard last April – to their partners as a means of telling them, “That’s what I’ll do to you”.

“Anecdotally, there have been cases where perpetrators have directly referenced the cases of Hannah Clarke or Kelly Wilkinson when they make threats, saying, ‘You’re going to end up just like her’, or saying something along the lines of, ‘That’s what you’ll get’ if news about them comes on,” Dr Lelliott told news.com.au.

“It appears that media reports about these cases, and ones like them, may lead to ‘copycat’-like behaviour, but may also be used as a tool of abuse themselves.

“Some interview respondents noted that perpetrators may also, for example, leave print outs of news stories concerning Hannah Clarke and the children around the house, or send them to ex-partners.”

The majority of participants in the study reported that cases of dousing threats within their services had become more prevalent over the past two or so years. And while no empirical measures exist yet, reasons may include an increased awareness among workers, and an increased fear among victims that such threats could be part of a pattern of escalating violence leading to murder.

“People are far more aware of it and that’s why there are so many more women, I think, talking about it,” one worker noted.

“Because now they’re really fearful and they’ve seen the consequences of that kind of threat being carried out.”

Another stated that they “see a really high prevalence of these kinds of threats, absolutely”.

“Different kinds of levels, different kinds of threats, but we do,” they added.

“So what we see most commonly are threats to burn the house down, threats to burn family and friend’s houses down, that sort of thing.”

“I actually have supported a woman whose respondent actually doused himself in petrol and threatened to burn himself at their family home where their children slept. Basically, yeah, well, it scared the hell out of her anyway,” one worker said.

“So, he did not actually burn himself because she managed to call triple-zero straight away. [But] the impact on her was really profound, because the smell of the petrol lingered for months.

“The location where he didused himself was actually close to the gas tank. So, he could have just killed everyone.”

What makes these threats – both implied and explicit – particularly “insidious”, Dr Lelliott and Dr Wallis noted in their findings, is that these “behaviours could be perceived as innocuous without an understanding of the broader context of the relationship”, but “almost always” occur in the context of an escalating pattern of “serious” domestic and family violence.

“I’m finding that it’s one of many elements. It’s not ever a stand-alone,” one worker said.

“Like they don’t just threaten to burn the house down or burn somebody – most of the time it’s because there is a domestic violence order (DVO), the client has left the relationship so there’s an escalation in the violence, and therefore it does escalate to the threats of burning either the house down, themselves or the client and the children.

“But usually there’s a lot that’s happened before it actually escalates to that point.”

Another, echoing the sentiment, noted the threats are “almost always just after separation”.

“So it’s about that not accepting that the relationship is over, and going into revenge and retaliation mode,” they added.

Their severity is also amplified by the accessibility of accelerants like petrol which, unlike the purchase of a firearm, are seen as “normal” household items.

Dr Lelliott told news.com.au that the prevalence of the study’s findings indicate “that there does need to be greater awareness of dousing threats – and indeed the use of fire generally – as a form of domestic and family violence and as a pattern of coercive control”.

“Some of our findings indicate that the severity of these threats is not always recognised, particularly by police,” he said.

“This work is, of course, preliminary at this point. We will release further papers in the future.”

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