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Tahlia McGrath plays amid Covid drama as Australia win Games cricket gold | Commonwealth Games 2022

Australia’s all-conquering women’s cricket team continued their dominance of the sport after edging out India in the Commonwealth Games final at Edgbaston, but not before Covid-19 has served up a dose of drama.

Meg Lanning’s side secured a nine-run win to claim the first Commonwealth gold awarded to women in a tight match in which India threatened to pull off a remarkable run chase right to death.

The history-making victory came amid high drama though, with Australia confirming midway through their innings that all-rounder Tahlia McGrath had tested positive to Covid-19 on the morning of the match.

If the final had been held in Australia, McGrath would not have been able to play but the Commonwealth Games rules are more relaxed to match the laws of the host nation.

After checking with bodies including the International Cricket Council and the Commonwealth Games Foundation – resulting in a 12-minute delay to the toss – she was allowed to take her place, with precautions. Wearing a mask, she sat isolated from her teammates during the batting innings and in a surreal moment after taking a catch in the third over, she waved her teammates away as they ran to celebrate.

“We were all happy to play, she was happy to play,” fast bowler Megan Schutt said after the game. “She feels absolutely fine so I think the positive result was a bit of a shock to her, but that’s Covid isn’t it – we’re all going to live through it.”

When the final wicket was confirmed by the third umpire, McGrath went from standing outside the team huddle to jump into it. And when she received her medal on the podium, she was, in stark contrast to her teammates, masked.

“We didn’t want to get in trouble, we felt bad for Tahlia at the end there,” Schutt said. “Obviously when you’re part of a game that’s so thrilling like that, that’s all you want to do [is celebrate] and at the end screw it, if we get Covid, so be it.”

Tahlia McGrath sits on her own in the dressing room.
Tahlia McGrath sits on her own in the dressing room. Photograph: Ryan Pierse/Getty Images

While India maintained a diplomatic line, it is believed they were not as supportive of the decision. “Before the toss we got to know… that was something which was not in our control and whatever the decision the Commonwealth had, we had to follow it,” skipper Harmanpreet Kaur said.

Opener Beth Mooney – who starred with the bat making 61 off 41 balls – said: “It’s a real shame that in elite sport you get publicly shamed for having Covid when over here probably 90% of the people in this room have it right now.

“No-one’s testing, no-one’s doing anything. It’s just a real shame she couldn’t celebrate with us, but at the same time I think the right decision was made in terms of letting her play. Hopefully people aren’t too upset about it”.

Australia had been on top until reeled in late in their innings. Indian captain Harmanpreet Kaur then batted brilliantly when scoring 65 from 43 balls. But when she was caught by record-breaking wicketkeeper Alyssa Healy off the bowling of Ash Gardner in the 16th over, the momentum swung back towards the Australians.

“Eleven she [Kaur] flicked the switch there and started bombing us for fours and sixes we knew we were in trouble… her wicket, that was the absolute turning point,” Schutt said. India came down to needing 11 off the final over, but Jess Jonassen needed only three balls to finish off the tail.

“It means a lot more than a I thought it did before these Commonwealth Games,” Schutt said.

Australia could have made things easier for themselves had they gone on with what was looking like being a big total. Mooney and skipper Meg Lanning (36 off 26) put on 74 for the second wicket, and at 109-3 with seven overs to go, 180-plus was in the offing.

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Gareth Parker revealed to take over news director role at Nine News Perth

WA journalist and radio host Gareth Parker is set to take on the role of news director in the Channel 9 Perth newsroom.

Parker announced the news on his morning breakfast radio show on Monday.

“I’ll be leaving 6PR breakfast … I am incredibly excited and proud to say that I’ve accepted a new job as the director of news for Channel 9 Perth, which is a huge opportunity for me personally,” Parker told listeners .

“I am looking forward to getting up the hill to the top of the Terrace and getting stuck into the newsroom.”

A date for when Parker will start in the new role has not yet been announced.

“I am not going to disappear immediately, there is still a bit to sort out with a move like this,” he said.

6PR has taken a massive hit in some of this year’s radio ratings surveys.

Parker’s 6PR breakfast show was the biggest loser of the survey in May this year, down a whopping 1.5 points to hold just 8.5 per cent of the audience pie — well behind its AM rival ABC Perth.

Last month’s survey showed Parker’s show managed just an 8.6 per cent share, still over two points behind the ABC.

Parker is a previous winner of the WA Journalist of the Year award.

He worked for The West Australian for over a decade, including almost four years as the paper’s State political editor.

Parker also served as the paper’s Melbourne bureau chief and as online deputy editor.

I have joined 6PR, which is owned by Channel Nine, in 2017.

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Florida prosecutor says he is planning a ‘vigorous defense’ after Gov. DeSantis suspended him

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The Florida prosecutor who was suspended by Republican Governor Ron DeSantis for his refusal to charge doctors or abortion patients for illegally terminating pregnancies is vowing to put up a “vigorous defense” legally.

DeSantis suspended Andrew Warren, a Democrat state attorney, on Aug. 4 during a news conference where he said that the prosecutor didn’t enforce duly-passed laws that crack down on child sex change surgeries and certain abortion procedures.

“We had the individual here from Hillsborough County say and [sign] letters that there are certain laws he just won’t enforce and won’t prosecute,” DeSantis told Fox News. “[State’s] attorneys that put their ideology over the rule of law are not satisfying their oath of office.”

Without providing specifics, Warren said on Sunday that he would fight the suspension.

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Hillsborough County State Attorney Andrew Warren talks to a voter during the NAACP Hillsborough County Branch Souls to the Polls voter drive on November 1, 2020, in Tampa, Florida.

Hillsborough County State Attorney Andrew Warren talks to a voter during the NAACP Hillsborough County Branch Souls to the Polls voter drive on November 1, 2020, in Tampa, Florida.
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“I’m not going down without a fight. I’m a former federal prosecutor, the duly elected state attorney, a native Floridian and a proud American. I refuse to let this man trample on your freedoms, to speak your mind, to make your own health care decisions, and to have your vote count. I hope you’ll stand with me,” Warren said.

Warren was elected in 2016 and 2020.

In the video, Warren said that the governor is attempting to overthrow an election.

FLORIDA GOV. RON DESANTIS SUSPENDS ‘SOROS-BACKED’ STATE ATTORNEY WHO REFUSED TO ENFORCE ABORTION BAN

The Florida prosecutor who was suspended by Republican Governor Ron DeSantis for his refusal to charge doctors or abortion patients for illegally terminating their pregnancy is vowing to put up a "strong defense" legally.

The Florida prosecutor who was suspended by Republican Governor Ron DeSantis for his refusal to charge doctors or abortion patients for illegally terminating their pregnancy is vowing to put up a “vigorous defense” legally.
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“Ron DeSantis is trying to overthrow democracy in Florida. His plot to suspend me blatantly violates the most fundamental basis of our democracy. Your vote. He’s trying to overturn the results of a fair and free election in abusing his power to serve his own political ambition,” he said.

A press release from DeSantis’ office states that he “has the authority to suspend a state officer under Article IV, Section 7 of the Constitution of the State of Florida.”

After suspending Warren, DeSantis appointed Hillsborough County Court Judge Susan Lopez as his replacement.

“It is my duty to hold Florida’s elected officials to the highest standards for the people of Florida. I have the utmost trust that Judge Susan Lopez will lead the office through this transition and faithfully uphold the rule of law,” DeSantis said in the press release.

A law in Florida banning abortions after 15 weeks, with exceptions such as if an abortion is needed to save a mother’s life, cases of rape or incest, and more went into effect on July 1.

The Associated Press contributed to this report.

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Wind Waker Completely Rewritten By Fan, It’s Like A Whole New Game

Wind Waker is, I am very proud to say, my favorite video game of all time. I’ve played through it so many times that I like to think I’ve seen every line of dialogue the game has to offer. So I’m very excited to try this mod out that takes every one of those lines of dialogue Nintendo put in the game and throws them all out the window.

Via Kotaku AU, The Wind Waker Rewritten is a project by aproxm that adds a few textures and changes a few cinematics, but does most of its work on the game’s script, adding over 10,000 lines of dialogue that completely reimagine every single one of the game’s characters, all in the name of comedy .

Some of these will work better for you than others — depending on how you read them in your head, anyway — but even if they don’t, you can maybe still appreciate the King of Red Lions being a cowboy, or Beedle getting dialogue more befitting of his visual design.

The 4:20 trailer below will give you an idea of ​​what kind of changes have been made, exactly, which in addition to just the raw number of dialogue changes also shows how every cutscene has had to have its context changed, and how every single NPC in the game has now been “re-characterized”.

The official pitch reads:

Experience the Great Sea in an entirely new and unprecedented way with The Legend of Zelda: the Wind Waker Rewritten, a romhack that takes the dialogue from the original Gamecube classic and rewrites it from front to back to tell an entirely different, unique story within the same framework of the game you know and love.

This romhack does not change any models, levels, islands, characters, ai, music, sfx, or any sort of gameplay whatsoever. Instead, the Wind Waker Rewrite features:

– Over 10,000+ new lines of dialogue

– Reimagined cutscenes and characterizations

– New video files

– A handful of texture edits

Welcome to newcomers and series veterans alike, the Wind Waker Rewritten is the perfect way to either replay this fan favorite or step foot in its world for the very first time. Playing this romhack couldn’t be easier, too–simply download one of two Patch Files and use “xDelta UI” to apply either patch to your original Wind Waker .iso or .nkit. And then you’re good to go!

If you want to try it out, you can download the mod here.

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Nicola Peltz thanks her father and fans amid Victoria Beckham feud: ‘Thanks for always having my back’

Nicola Peltz Beckham has thanked her father for always having her back following reports of a bubbling feud with her mother-in-law victoria beckham.

The 27-year-old actress shared a photo of her and her billionaire dad, Nelson Peltz hugging to her Instagram Stories, along with a slightly biting caption.

“Thank you for always having my back I love you so much dad,” she wrote, along with the sweet photo of them hugging.

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Nicola Peltz and her father, billionaire Nelson Peltz.
Peltz shared this photo to her Instagram Stories, of her and her billionaire dad in a deep embrace. (Instagram / @nicolaannepeltzbeckham)

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She also posted another selfie to Instagram where she wore dark designer sunglasses and shared a message thanking the fans who had supported her over the last few days.

“Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your messages,” she wrote. “It means so much to me. Sending you all my love and light your way ✨🐬❤️ kindness is such a powerful thing.”

Husband brooklyn beckham23, was quick to share some words of comfort under her post:

“My baby xxx” he wrote.

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Rumors have circulated of a feud between Victoria and the newlywed since Nicola and Brooklyn’s wedding on April 9 this year, with Page Six reporting that the pair are not on speaking terms.

Peltz recently hinted at the impact the feud was having on her mental health, posting some posed snaps of her with tear-stained cheeks and bloodshot eyes.

“Sometimes I find it hard to show the sad bits of me. Growing up with seven siblings and two very strong parents made me really tough, they hammered it into me to not let people bring me down or hurt my heart,” she wrote in the caption.

“We all have days where people make you feel bad and it’s okay to be hurt by it. I love you all so much and truly appreciate all of your support.”

The feud between Beckham and Peltz reportedly stems from how Nicola’s family treated the Beckhams before and during the wedding. (Getty)

A source recently revealed to Page Six that in the months before Nicola and Brooklyn’s Miami wedding, the actress and her wealthy family did not want Victoria “to be any part of the planning.”

The source claimed that Nicola wouldn’t clue the former Spice Girl in on anything and “communication was minimal.”

Apparently, ever since the extravagant affair – which was held at the luxurious Peltz family estate – it’s been “non-stop petty drama” and the tension is coming between Beckhams and their son.

There is also speculation of discontent between the Beckhams and Peltz family, with some claiming the feud between Victoria and Nicola stems from the treatment the Beckhams received from the Peltz family before and during the wedding.

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Jiu-jitsu legend shot, how did he die?

Legendary Jiu-jitsu fighter Leandro Lo was fatally shot at a concert in Sao Paulo, Brazil, according to reports.

A lawyer for the Brazilian Jiu-jitsu world champion confirmed that his client, 33, died after being declared brain-dead from the shooting, according to a report by MMA Fighting.

The killing allegedly took place during a confrontation between Lo and Police Officer Henrique Otávio Oliveira Velozo, the outlet reported.

Witnesses said Velozo grabbed a bottle from Lo’s table and that the fighter took the cop down and held him, according to the outlet, citing a police report.

MMA Fighting reports after the pair were separated, Velozo allegedly pulled out a gun, firing a round into Lo’s forehead.

Lo had dominated the sport since 2011, winning eight World Championship titles – which made him one of the most decorated Jiu-jitsu fighters of all time. Just earlier this year, he won another World Championship in California.

Tributes came flooding in after the shock news of his death.

“A very sad day for the BJJ community,” analyst and former UFC fighter Kenny Florian tweeted. “Leander was a legend.”

Combat sports analyst Luke Thomas tweeted: “Oh my god.”

UFC commentator John Gooden tweeted: “Saddened to hear about the tragic loss of Leandro Lo. One of the greatest Jiu-jitsu players ever. Absolutely tragic. My condolences to his family and friends of him.”

This article first appeared on the New York Post and was reproduced with permission

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Premier asks Labor to return CFMEU donation

Labor’s state executive will meet this afternoon to discuss returning a controversial $125,000 election donation from the Victorian branch of the construction union, following a request by Premier Peter Malinauskas amid a domestic violence controversy and vandalism claims.

The donation helped bolster Labor’s campaign ahead of the March 2022 state election and has been the subject of scrutiny in recent weeks after the John Setka-led Victorian branch of the Construction, Forestry, Maritime, Mining and Energy Union (CFMEU) took control of the South Australian branch.

The Opposition and Setka’s estranged wife Emma Walters – whom the polarizing construction union boss was convicted of harassing in 2019 – called on Malinauskas to hand the $125,000 donation to a domestic violence charity.

Malinauskas had previously rejected their appeals, but yesterday afternoon he announced that he had requested that Labor’s state executive pay back or donate the CFMEU’s gift.

The state executive will hold a virtual snap meeting at 1pm today to consider Malinauskas’ request.

The Premier, who is a member of the state executive, is yet to confirm if he will attend today’s meeting, but party rules dictate that he is unable to send a proxy if he is absent.

He said this morning that the backflip was triggered by a conversation he had with Master Builders SA CEO Will Frogley following reports the association’s cars were vandalized and had CFMEU-branded stickers placed on them on Friday.

“Will explained to me the events that had occurred reportedly on Friday afternoon in terms of CFMEU stickers being put on Master Builders cars and also the damage to a car as well,” Malinauskas told ABC Radio Adelaide.

“Over the last couple of weeks, I said if there is any evidence that would suggest that inappropriate behavior on behalf of the CFMEU coming across the border from Victoria – if there are examples of that or evidence of that occurring here in South Australia – then I’ll act.

“That’s exactly what I did yesterday afternoon upon hearing that news.”

A CFMEU sticker was placed on a Master Builders SA car on Friday. Photo: Master Builders SA

Damage to a Master Builders SA car. Photo: Master Builders SA

Malinauskas said the party would not “jump the gun unfairly”, but he was convinced that the alleged car vandalism was sufficient grounds on which Labor’s state executive would agree to hand back the CFMEU’s donation.

“I’ve certainly made my expectations clear and I want to send a very clear message about what will and won’t be tolerated in the context of industrial action in South Australia under my leadership,” he said.

Opposition spokesperson Michelle Lensink described Malinauskas’ decision as a “huge win for domestic violence survivors and victims”, given Setka’s criminal history.

But she urged Malinauskas to apologize for describing her call to donate the $125,000 to a domestic violence charity as “cute”.

“I raised legitimate concerns about Labor’s links to the CFMEU and the $125,000 donation and was totally dismissed because Peter Malinauskas thought it was all a ‘little cute’,” she said.

“Peter Malinauskas had to be dragged kicking and screaming to this point and it is seriously alarming that it has taken weeks for him to realize the error of his ways.”

Malinauskas said the $125,000 donation “didn’t come from John Setka, it came from the union itself”.

He said his comment referred to Lensink’s “political point scoring” – noting the former Marshall Government redirected funding away from Catherine House, a charity which supports women who experience domestic violence.

“Michelle Lensink was seeming to draw a connection between a donation from a construction union and somehow it being a reflection on a lack of conviction on my part in respect to standing up against domestic violence,” he said.

Members of the South Australian branch of the CFMEU voted unanimously last Wednesday night to enter into a co-operative administration arrangement with the Victorian division.

Ahead of the vote, Malinauskas said he was concerned that the culture of the South Australian division would change under a Victorian take-over.

“In South Australia in the industrial landscape, including within construction, we’ve had civil and professional negotiations in the past and I don’t want to see that change,” he said last week.

But SA secretary Andrew Sutherland said the decision was a “significant step towards building a stronger and sustainable South Australian branch”.

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Florida prosecutor says he is planning a ‘vigorous defense’ after Gov. DeSantis suspended him

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The Florida prosecutor who was suspended by Republican Governor Ron DeSantis for his refusal to charge doctors or abortion patients for illegally terminating pregnancies is vowing to put up a “vigorous defense” legally.

DeSantis suspended Andrew Warren, a Democrat state attorney, on Aug. 4 during a news conference where he said that the prosecutor didn’t enforce duly-passed laws that crack down on child sex change surgeries and certain abortion procedures.

“We had the individual here from Hillsborough County say and [sign] letters that there are certain laws he just won’t enforce and won’t prosecute,” DeSantis told Fox News. “[State’s] attorneys that put their ideology over the rule of law are not satisfying their oath of office.”

Without providing specifics, Warren said on Sunday that he would fight the suspension.

GOV. RON DESANTIS SAYS PROSECUTORS WITH ‘MILITANT AGENDAS’ WON’T ‘GET AWAY WITH IT’ IN FLORIDA

Hillsborough County State Attorney Andrew Warren talks to a voter during the NAACP Hillsborough County Branch Souls to the Polls voter drive on November 1, 2020, in Tampa, Florida.

Hillsborough County State Attorney Andrew Warren talks to a voter during the NAACP Hillsborough County Branch Souls to the Polls voter drive on November 1, 2020, in Tampa, Florida.
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“I’m not going down without a fight. I’m a former federal prosecutor, the duly elected state attorney, a native Floridian and a proud American. I refuse to let this man trample on your freedoms, to speak your mind, to make your own health care decisions, and to have your vote count. I hope you’ll stand with me,” Warren said.

Warren was elected in 2016 and 2020.

In the video, Warren said that the governor is attempting to overthrow an election.

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The Florida prosecutor who was suspended by Republican Governor Ron DeSantis for his refusal to charge doctors or abortion patients for illegally terminating their pregnancy is vowing to put up a "strong defense" legally.

The Florida prosecutor who was suspended by Republican Governor Ron DeSantis for his refusal to charge doctors or abortion patients for illegally terminating their pregnancy is vowing to put up a “vigorous defense” legally.
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“Ron DeSantis is trying to overthrow democracy in Florida. His plot to suspend me blatantly violates the most fundamental basis of our democracy. Your vote. He’s trying to overturn the results of a fair and free election in abusing his power to serve his own political ambition,” he said.

A press release from DeSantis’ office states that he “has the authority to suspend a state officer under Article IV, Section 7 of the Constitution of the State of Florida.”

After suspending Warren, DeSantis appointed Hillsborough County Court Judge Susan Lopez as his replacement.

“It is my duty to hold Florida’s elected officials to the highest standards for the people of Florida. I have the utmost trust that Judge Susan Lopez will lead the office through this transition and faithfully uphold the rule of law,” DeSantis said in the press release.

A law in Florida banning abortions after 15 weeks, with exceptions such as if an abortion is needed to save a mother’s life, cases of rape or incest, and more went into effect on July 1.

The Associated Press contributed to this report.

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Decision-Making Strategies

If you’re someone who struggles with decision-making (me), you may find applying a little bit of logic is helpful in getting you to your final destination – the best possible choice. Cognitive and Computer Scientist Tom Griffiths spoke about the power of applying computer science to decision-making in his 2017 TED Talk, and it’s kind of mind-blowing.

If you haven’t heard his talk before, you can do that below. But we’ve also pulled out the key learnings from it for you.

How to become better at making decisions

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In his talk, Griffiths chatted about a handful of practical algorithms that make decision-making a little more straightforward. In it, he shared that while you’re not guaranteed the perfect outcome, using computer science gives you the best chance of making a good choice.

These were his best-loved strategies.

The 37 per cent decision-making rule

Speaking about choosing a home specifically, Griffiths shared that once you’ve seen 37 per cent of options, you’re ready to make a choice. This theory is actually often applied in dating as well.

Essentially, once you’ve seen 37 per cent of the available options, you will know what kind of home (or partner) is best suited to you. So, the next time you like something as much or more than the option you liked most in the first 37 per cent of options, commit.

“If you want to maximize the probability that you find the very best place, you should look at 37 per cent of what’s on the market and then make an offer on the next place you see which is better than anything that you’ve seen so far,” Griffiths said.

“Or if you’re looking for a month, take 37 per cent of that time, 11 days, to set a standard, and then you’re ready to act.”

Essentially, I have explained that this choice is an example of what scientists call an ‘optimal stopping problem’, which applies an algorithm to certain decisions and gives you the best likelihood of getting an optimal result.

“There’s no way that you can consider all of the options, so you have to take a chance,” Griffiths later expanded.

The explore/exploit trade-off

On the topic of decisions like choosing where to have dinner over the weekend, Griffiths referenced something called the explore/exploit trade-off.

Basically, this refers to our desire (or ability) to either explore new things and choose from that group of options or exploit the knowledge we’ve already built and revisit a restaurant we enjoy.

I have explained:

“The explore, exploit trade-off shows up anytime you have to choose between trying something new and going with something that you already know is pretty good. Whether it’s listening to music or trying to decide you’re going to spend time with…”

It’s a tricky problem, but technology companies have had some useful learnings over the years that can be applied here. The best way to simplify this choice is by looking at time.

The first question you should ask yourself is how much longer you’re going to be in town,” Griffiths said.

“If you’re just going to be there for a short time, then you should exploit. There’s no point gathering information. Just go to a place you already know is good. But if you’re going to be there for a longer time, explore. Try something new because the information you get is something that can improve your choices in the future.”

The ‘most recently used’ rule for decision-making

When it comes to deciding to keep or get rid of items (like clothing), computer science teaches us that the rule of disposing of the least recently used item works best.

“Your wardrobe is just like the computer’s memory. You have limited capacity, and you need to try and get in there the things that you want or that you’re most likely to need. So you can get to them as quickly as possible,” I explained.

So when deciding to cut down on clothing items, he suggests thinking about the last time you wore each item and considering that in your decision-making process. In short: that shirt you haven’t worn for five years can be donated.


These three strategies have the ability to reduce the stress associated with day-to-day decision-making and simplify the whole process. That’s more than worth a shot if you ask me.

If you’d like to see the full TED Talk video, you can do that here.

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I was driving home from a drawn-out breakup with someone else, thinking about him | life and style

We were sitting on the sun-drenched stairs at university when I flopped news of an upcoming date into our conversation. I was chatting with an old friend and a friend we’d just made, and the comment was directed towards the new guy. We were getting along too well and I wanted him to know about my existing situationship.

My relationship wasn’t exclusive but I’ve always struggled with the concept of seeing two people casually at once. I didn’t like the idea of ​​living my own version of The Bachelorette; with far fewer helicopters and untouched cheeseboards.

I regretted my choice to shut down the flirting as soon as I’d made it. I was already looking at him, thinking: “I’ll end up with this bloke one day.” It didn’t make sense to my cynical self; I hardly knew him. Even thinking he might be interested seemed wildly arrogant. I quietly chastized myself. This kind of thinking was for four beers too deep into a Saturday night. But dead sober in the summer sun I was gravitating towards someone I hardly knew.

As the turbulence of 2020 ravaged everyone, the new guy became a steadfast friend. I meandered in and out of my situationship, on and off the apps. “Love is a lie,” I would half-jokingly declare as my friends and I traded war stories of deflated dating lives. All the while I was childishly excited to talk to the new guy whenever the opportunity arose.

A year after we’d met, I was driving home from act one of a drawn-out break-up, thinking about him. He’d become my barometer for a decent block. “Yeah, they’re great,” the old friend and I would say to each other about some new entry on the scene, “but they’re not him.

Once the curtains had finally closed on the breakup, I messaged him. I “just happened” to slip my revised relationship status into our conversation.

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We were soon on our first date, and in many ways, it felt like our last (no, a terrible plot twist isn’t coming). There was an immediate sense of comfort with him; no pressure to present a shiny, sparkly exterior as there had been with others before. We became a couple with ease, to the point where we never actually had the “what are we?” conversation. (So, if you’re reading this, could you get back to me with an answer by close of business?)

For the sake of fairness, I asked when his “moment” came.

“You know, Im,” he said. “I think it started on the stairs.”